Update..

So, since I last posted...things have been going alright.  Basically by the time J got back from vacation it was way too close to a 6 day road trip with my folks to tell them.  Then, when we did get back last week Dad had to basically go straight to the hospital for emergency surgery to have his appendix out.  So he was in the hospital 4 days and came home Saturday.  I am seriously considering telling them this weekend if the chance presents itself and Mom seems in a good state of mind.  It is kind of a busy weekend, but I have no real reason to put it off even though I really want to.  Still don't know if J and I are "meant for each other", but perhaps not keeping this big secret will help me sort out my feelings.