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So we are still together and I've told my folks about him. We are doing well, but they are deep in depression and both of them are telling me that they are having issues with their faith over this.
So a week after my last post, J asked me when we were going to see my spiritual director together...and then I confessed everything I had been thinking over the past month. Basically, he wanted to still fight and see if we could work things out. Since then we've been doing a devotional he bought for both of us on his own accord once or twice a week. He has very willingly started bowing towards the tabernacle at church and when he follows me up for communion. He even is doing the sign of the cross with holy water as we leave. All of this leads me to believe that we can make this work. We've discussed that he is okay with going to Mass with the family weekly, sometimes pulling double duty so he can have communion. He is also comfortable teaching the kids the things we agree on, such as saints, Mary, prayers including the sign of the cross, and the true presence in the Eucharist. I feel very hopeful. A friend of mine that is in charge of CCD at my church tells me that the kids that know their faith the best and get to church the most often are from interfaith families. Those families know they have to make it a priority and the kids can see that. That gave me some hope...because my parents get in my head sometimes and I begin to doubt.
We met with my spiritual director and she listened and encouraged us. We met with his counselor and he really pointed out how J is taking lead and how much that means to me.
My folks just can't seem to get over J's faith, that he doesn't make enough, in their eyes, to provide for a stay-at-home mom, and they seem still confused about why we broke up to begin with. To be honest, I'm probably really bad at explaining that myself....because I don't know how he didn't know what was wrong or seem to try to find out until it was too late.
