Oh the tangled webs we weave...

J's Dad died last week.  He's taking it pretty well overall, but it is hard on him.  Plus the whole live-in-girlfriend situation is getting crazy.  She is pretty level-headed most of the time, but then out of the blue she'll start freaking out.  She wants them to sign something that says it will be a even 4-way split. 

I understand - cause she has been depended on J's Dad for about 8 years.  She's worried about how she is going to live.  But come on, she's 57....how does she not have her own savings or a job is beyond me.  Or, that she hasn't insisted that Michael (J's Dad), have a will that included her with their drinking and chain smoking ways is just insane to me.  J and siblings have been great to her overall...they are at their whits end after last week and multiple blow-ups...but she's gotta get another plan going...cause either way there is not going to be enough money to live out the rest of her days on.

Here's the last blow-up.  J's name is on one of his Dad's cars...so right now it is automatically his.  Kathy (the gf), wanted to be able to use it, so J wanted to see her insurance before he left.  She started freaking out asking why he was "doing this to her".  Finally they called the insurance company to only find out that her and her 19 year old son aren't insured on either of the cars!  In fact she is not supposed to be driving any car that has one of those breathizers on the ignition!!  So, J ended up locking the car and taking both sets of keys with him.  Not before she freaked out, eventually she became logical and understood that J just didn't want to be liable for the car if anything happened in the meantime.  However, she and her son are still driving the other car and J came to find out on Friday that the estate could be held liable if anything happened.  So now he is worried about that.  <sigh>

I went down to KC for the funeral and the day after.  It was a nice Catholic service including a rosary which I was surprised by!  I was one of 3 people actually able to say the whole thing, but nice nonetheless.  I even told my folks I was going there.  Mom took that well overall.  She just wanted to make sure I wouldn't get "lured back in".  To be honest, our relationship junk has been on hold since the cardiac arrest, I have a hard time even worrying about that right now....hopefully things calm down in the next couple weeks so I can start concentrating on that again.